A Woman Advises the Saints

In a saheeh hadith, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Religion is advice." Then it was said, "For whom, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied, "For Allah, His Book, His Messenger, the Imams of the Muslims, and all the Muslims. "

It is true, a lot of advice will bring benefits if the advice comes from the knowledge drawn from the Qur'an and as-Sunnah. However, a piece of advice that is not based on knowledge will actually bring disaster and destruction, because in essence it is not advice, but Satan's whispers and anxieties. The problem is, can only a piece of advice be done by men and is impossible for women?

The following story shows that even the Eve could contribute to giving advice and advice to their parents according to their abilities. May be useful. Allahul-Muwaffiq.

Once upon a time

Imam Malik rahimahullah narrated a story in the book al-Muwaththa ', from Yahya bin Sa'id from al-Qasim bin Muhammad, that he said, "One of my wives passed away, then Muhammad bin Ka'ab al-Qurazhi came to me to revere (death) of my wife, then he said,

‘Indeed, in the days of the Children of Israel there was a man who faqih,‘ alim, abid, and mujtahid. He has a wife he admires and loves very much. Then the wife died, making her heart very sad. He felt very reluctant to accept this fact, to the point that he locked the door, locked himself in the house, and cut off all relations with humans, so that no one could meet him.

Then there was a clever woman who heard the news, so she came to Sang Alim's house while telling people, "Really, I really need a fatwa from him and I don't want to express my problem, but have to meet him in person." However, all humans don't care about it. However, he remained standing at the door waiting for the release of Sang Alim. He said, ungguh Really, I really want to listen to his fatwa. Then, one of them called, '(O Sang Alim) really here there is a woman who really wants your fatwa.' And the woman added, 'And I do not want to say it but must meet face to face with him without any intermediary.' still ignore it. However, he still stood at the door and did not want to leave.

Finally, Sang Alim replied, 'Allow him to come in.' Then the woman entered and said, "Really, I came to you because of an issue." Sang Alim replied, "What is your problem?" The woman explained, "Really, I have borrowed jewelry to one of my neighbors and I always wear it for some time, then one day they send someone to me to take it back to him? 'So, Sang Alim replied,' Yes, for the sake of Allah, you must give to them. ' the woman denies, 'But, I have used it for a long time.' Sang Alim replied, 'But they have the right to take back the goods that have been lent to you even after a long time.' Then the woman said, 'O Sang Alim, may Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala merahmatimu. Why do you also feel heavy heart to return something that has been entrusted by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to you, then Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala wants to take back His deposit, while He has more right to take it from you? ' Alim for the events that are happening to him and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has made the woman's words can be useful and inspiring.



The story above is narrated by Imam Malik in al-Muwaththa 'in the book al-Jana'iz Bab Jami'ul-Hasabah fil-Mushibah (163).

Shaykh Syu'aib al-Arna'uth in his tahqiq against the book Jami'ul-Ushul (6/339) said, "The story above arrived at Muhammad bin Ka'ab al-Qurazhi with saheeh sanad."

Ibrah



Calamity is a test from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, as a measure of the faith of the servant. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala said,

وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُمْ حَتَّى نَعْلَمَ الْمُجَاهِدِينَ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّابِرِينَ وَنَبْلُوَا أَخْبَارِكُمْ

"And indeed, We will truly test you so that We know those who strive and be patient among you, and that We declare (the good and bad) things about you." (Surat Muhammad: 31).

Patience is needed when we are hit by disaster. The obligation of every Muslim when he gets a disaster is to hope to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala reward and change better. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam taught us to read prayers when a disaster struck. He said,

ما من مسلم تصيبه مصيبة فيقول ما أمره الله إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون اللهم أجرني مصيبتي وأخلف لي خيرا منها إلا أخلف الله له خيرا منها

"It is not a Muslim who is struck by a disaster and then reads as instructed by Allah (ie)," Indeed we belong to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and to Him, we will be returned. O Allah, give a reward for the disaster that befell me and give a substitute that is better than him 'but Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will give him a better substitute than the one before.' "(HR. Season, 4/475, at-Tirmidzi, 11 / 417, Ahmad, 33/82).

Thus, it is truly beautiful things that happen to a Muslim. Because all the things that happened to him - such as pleasure and hardship, spaciousness and calamity - all of them were good for him, as the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam characterized in his words,

عجبا لأمر المؤمن إن أمره كله خير وليس ذاك لأحد للمؤمن إن أصابته سراء شكر فكان خيرا له وإن أصابته ضراء صبر فكان خيرا له

"It is surprising the case (affair) of Muslims, all the cases (affairs) are good and that does not happen except in the case of a Muslim. When he is given pleasure he is grateful that it is good for him. And if it is overwritten by difficulties, he is patient, so it is also good for him. "(Narrated by Muslim. 14/280).

The severity of the trials often makes people forget the destiny of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. We all belong to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala with whom we will also be returned. However, most people are not aware of this, so they do actions that are prohibited by the Shari'a. They drag on in sadness, so they neglect themselves. In fact, sometimes they shouted hysterically, beat their faces, tore their clothes, and issued utterances that were forbidden by the Shari'a, even though the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,

لَيْسَ مِنَّا مَنْ لَطَمَ الْخُدُودَ وَشَقَّ الْجُيُوبَ وَدَعَا بِدَعْوَى الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ

"Not including our group, someone who slapped his cheeks, tore up his clothes, and called out with calls of ignorance." (Narrated by Bukhari, 5/41, at-Tirmidzi, 4/119, an-Nasa'i, 6 / 408).


Grieving is a natural thing especially because it is left behind by loved ones. However, let the sadness not exceed the limit of what is allowed. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,

إِنَّ الْعَيْنَ تَدْمَعَ وَالْقَلْبَ يَحْزَنُ وَلاَ نَقُولُ إِلاَّ مَا يُرْضِي رَبَّنَا

"The eyes may cry, the heart may be sad, but we are not speaking except only (in words) that is blessed by our Rabb (God-ed.)" (Narrated by al-Bukhari: 5/57).

Indeed, the handlebars are very astute in finding gaps to plunge Adam's child. This is where the importance of counseling each other in truth and patience. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala said,

وَذَكِّرْ فَإِنَّ الذِّكْرَى تَنفَعُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ

"And keep warning, because the warning is truly beneficial for those who believe." (Surat adz-Dhariyat: 55).

It's just that, the way we give advice must be really considered. The way to advise a waliyul-amri (ruler) is different from how to advise the people. Advising parents is different from how to advise our own children. Likewise, the method of advising a pious person who has influence and speech heard by the community should be different from the way we advise a layman. Let us advise in a gentle manner, with subtle words, and not done in front of the public, as the woman did. Hopefully with that they will wake up and return to the right path. Because, a pious person is not someone who is free from mistakes. They are also ordinary people who make mistakes. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,

كُلُّ بَنِي آدَمَ خَطَّاؤٌ وَخَيْرُ الْخَطَّائِيْنَ التَّوَّابُونَ

"Every child of Adam made a lot of mistakes, and the best people who made mistakes were those who repented of him." (HR at-Tirmidzi, 9/59, Ibn Majah, 12/302, Ahmad, 26/123).

Pearl of the Story



Some important links that we can summarize from the story above are:

1. Sometimes an ahlul ilmi can forget and neglect the knowledge he has been teaching so far. As the story of Sang Alim, the faqih above, he had forgotten what he had always taught about the obligation of a person to remain patient when he was struck by a disaster.

2. Obligations for ahlu ra'yi and those who have understanding, should remind other siblings of things that are sometimes neglected. And this is not limited to only men, but also women if they have the ability to do so. Of course this is done if it is safe from slander and does not violate the prohibition and prohibition of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, as has been done by the woman in the story above who can revive an alim who is negligent of the big event that happened to him.

3. Science and understanding are the meeting points that become the equality between men and women, because science is not a right that is monopolized by men only. Women also have the right to gain knowledge and understanding. In fact, the events that happened to a woman demanded that they be more knowledgeable about Shari'a laws. Thaharoh (purification), educating children, and others are problems that really need the right knowledge and understanding.

4. The importance of making an example in explaining a problem, because an example can describe a problem more clearly. And this is also the Qur'an method in explaining a problem. Pay attention to the verse of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala which explains the tauhid sentence and kufr sentences. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala said,

ألم تر كيف ضرب الله مثلا كلمة طيبة كشجرة طيبة أصلها ثابت وفرعها في السمآء {24} تؤتي أكلها كل حين بإذن ربها ويضرب الله الأمثال للناس لعلهم يتذكرون {25} ومثل كلمة خبيثة كشجرة خبيثة اجتثت من فوق الأرض مالها من قرار

"Do you not see how God has made a parable that is as good as a good tree, its roots are firm and its branches (towering) into the sky, the tree gives its fruit every season with the permission of its Rabb. God made the parables for humans so that they always remembered: And the parable of a bad sentence like a bad tree, which had been removed with its roots from the surface of the earth; can not remain (upright) in the slightest. "(Surat Ibrahim: 24-26).


5. Enjoy entertaining people by mentioning the news of previous people and valuable stories that are loaded with lessons. Especially if the stories are in accordance with the circumstances of the person being given advice, because such methods will be more arousing and aware of his negligence so that he can be entertained and take lessons from these stories.

Wallahu Allam.