Don't Tell Sinful Adultery (Zina)

I have committed zina sin when I was a child, but I did not know it was a sin but at the same time I was afraid of being found out, I now want to get married but I do not want to say the sin of adultery to my future husband because this is related to extended family, how should I behave Islam?

Answer:

Bismillah was shalatu was greeting ‘ala Rasulillah, wa ba’du,

Not a condition of repentance from adultery must tell and report the sin of adultery to others, whoever he is. Both her future husband, parents, siblings, clerics, teachers, even including leaders in his country.

Buraidah bin Hashib Radhiyallahu ‘anhu once told a story,

One time when Maiz bin Malik came to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,

يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ، طَهِّرْنِي

"O Messenger of Allah, purify me ..."

Answer the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,

وَيْحَكَ ، ارْجِعْ فَاسْتَغْفِرِ اللهَ وَتُبْ إِلَيْهِ

"Don't be presumptuous ..., go home and beg forgiveness to Allah, repent to Him."

Go home Maiz. Not long after, he came again. He still reports,

يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ، طَهِّرْنِي

"O Messenger of Allah, purify me ..."

Answer the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,

وَيْحَكَ ، ارْجِعْ فَاسْتَغْفِرِ اللهَ وَتُبْ إِلَيْهِ

"Don't be presumptuous ..., go home and beg forgiveness to Allah, repent to Him."

Go home Maiz. Not long after, he came again. He continued to report the same and the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam gave the same answer three times. Until the fourth coming, only the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam received the complaint from Maiz. (Narrated Muslim 1695 and Nasai in al-Kubro 7125).

This hadith clearly shows that NOT the conditions of repentance must confess. Because the essence of repentance is begging forgiveness of God for regretting his actions. Even the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam suggested as much as possible kept secret.

The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,

مَنْ أَصَابَ مِنْ هَذِهِ الْقَاذُورَاتِ شَيْئًا فَلْيَسْتَتِرْ بِسِتْرِ اللَّهِ

"Who is afflicted with immorality by committing this kind of act (adultery), he should hide it, with the secrecy that Allah gives." (Narrated by Malik in Al-Muwatha ', no. 1508)

Al-Hafidz Ibn Hajar said,

ويؤخذ من قضيته - أي: ماعز عندما أقرَّ بالزنى - أنه يستحب لمن وقع في مثل قضيته أن يتوب إلى الله تعالى ويستر نفسه ولا يذكر ذلك لأحدٍ. . .

Based on this case - the Friends of Maiz who claim to commit adultery - show that it is recommended for people who fall into the case of adultery to repent to Allah - Ta'ala - and cover up their mistakes, and not tell anyone.

Then he said,

وبهذا جزم الشافعي رضي الله عنه فقال: أُحبُّ لمن أصاب ذنباً فستره الله عليه أن يستره على نفسه ويتوب ..

And this is also what asserted as-Syafii Radhiyallahu ‘anhu, he said,

I like those who have done a sin, then God keeps it a secret, so that he keeps his sins a secret and seriously repents God ... (Fathul Bari, 12/124).

Other people have no personal interests in our immorality. So even if he doesn't know, it won't have any influence on his life. On the contrary, when he knows, it will not improve himself more. Especially when immorality is done when it is not baligh, which has no value at all.

Therefore, repent and do not tell anyone the sin of adultery to death !!

Thus. Allahu a'lam.